“A thought is a living thing. There is strength and power in thoughts, and we must learn to use them wisely and for everyone’s benefit. With your thoughts you can either build or destroy.” – James Van Praagh
I recently saw a grandmother playing with her granddaughter in the park. It was clear that the grandmother enjoyed their time together, loved showing her granddaughter new things and was patient with her instruction.
When it was time for them to leave the park, the grandmother scooped up the child and placed her in her stroller. As she fumbled with the straps and failed to get the snaps aligned correctly, she said aloud “Grandma is so stupid. She is way too too stupid to figure out how this works. She’ll never get you strapped in. This is just awful!”
The energy of joy, wonder, and exploration that I had witnessed between them a few moments earlier was instead replaced with heaviness and the look on the granddaughter’s face was one of uncertainty as she gazed up at her grandmother.
As a one-time thing, this event may have not had much impact on me. However, I have witnessed this same pattern on a number of occasions as I frequently see these two at the park near my home.
My heart was saddened by what I witnessed and I grieved not only for the child – the wide-eyed innocent girl who clearly looks up to and is captivated by her grandmother – but more so for the heart of the grandmother and the verbal self-abuse she inflicted upon herself. The certainty with which she judged herself over such a small thing made me wonder what deeply held beliefs and negative thought patterns were playing in her mind on a daily basis.
Almost every one of us has experienced this sort of destructive thought pattern or belief at some point in our life. Feelings of frustration, not being good enough, smart enough, pretty enough, and so on. As one time events, these are relatively innocuous. If these thoughts become a pattern, however, they can have a huge impact on us.
Over time, these negative thoughts and beliefs can become buried deep into our subconscious and start to affect the way we view the world, the choices we make, and can even affect our cells.
“The thoughts we’ve held and the words we’ve repeatedly used have created our life and experiences to this point. […] What we’re choosing to think and say today, at this moment, will create tomorrow and the next day and the next week and the next month and the next year, and so on.”
– Louise Hay, Author
Some of the most rewarding work that I do with clients is helping them to uncover the underlying thoughts and beliefs that are running their internal programs and impacting their life. By simply becoming aware of the self-talk we have running in the background, we can begin to see the ways that we are creating our reality.
From there, we can start to reprogram their thoughts, beliefs and desires to create a more healthy, vibrant and meaningful life. Changing the way that we speak and think to ourselves can have profound effects on our health – physically, mentally, emotionally, and even spiritually.
If you are feeling locked into old patterns of fear, panic, despair or other worrisome thoughts and would like to refocus and create a new life, I invite you to consider working with me in a one-on-one intuitive coaching session or attend one of my upcoming retreats or workshops. These interactions will help you to become more aware of how your thoughts are affecting your reality and how you can shift to a more positive, empowering and abundant way of being!
For now, I will share with you a simple yet powerful visual meditation by James Van Praagh to help you regain your center.