The energy of the year 2012 hit me hard. Nearing the end of 2011, I began to feel lethargic, unmotivated, and generally unwell. By mid-November, my immune system had weakened so much that I ended up with a terrible cold and laryngitis for 10 days.
I made it through the Holiday Season, but continued to feel low into the New Year. The first 3 months of 2012 were spent mostly on the couch, as I had very little energy for anything else. Despite trying meditation, exercise, vitamin D and a sun lamp, my moods remained low. I knew something had to be done.
I began to look at my life and realize that there were many parts of it that seemed to be taken up by obligations, and not much that was done for joy. My job had turned from one I looked forward to every day, to one that I felt obliged to do. I had several relationships in my life that were draining instead of being life-giving; friendships that were out of old habit, rather than mutual respect and enjoyment.
As I began to really look at where I was placing my energy, I began to see that I was saying yes to things I didn’t want, and no to things I did want. I saw the missed opportunities to spend time with family because I “had to work”. I saw the times I didn’t spend with a dear friend because I was too drained from spending time with someone I was afraid to let go of, despite the fact that our relationship was not healthy anymore. I had painted myself into a corner, and I felt utterly and completely lost.
I spent a lot of time trying to decide how to get perspective and to “reset” myself. My husband suggested that I travel with him on his next business trip to India, and I immediately came up with dozens of reasons why I couldn’t. My clients needed me, my family needed me, I had to do this, I needed to do that…
Then I realized that I had been complaining for years about not getting any time off, yet there I was getting in my own way of what I desired. We decided the next chance we got, I would travel with him.
The universe responded to this request FAST. I still remember clearly the morning my husband called home and said he had to go to Seoul, Korea. It was a Wednesday morning, just after 11 am, and my mind immediately started to plan my packing list, imagining that we would go off on this amazing adventure on the weekend. “When do you have to go?” I asked. “2pm,” he replied. Oh.
We didn’t have children yet, so there was no reason I could think of he couldn’t go. So he came home, packed up, and left. There I was, in the middle of a breakdown, alone while my husband was on an adventure.
A week later, we connected via skype, and my husband told me they wanted him to stay another week. My heart sank. I told him how I was feeling. “Do you want to come here?” he asked me. I immediately panicked and gave him a dozen reasons why that wasn’t going to happen. “I’m afraid of flying / it’s too far / I don’t speak the language….”
Even in the midst of all these protestations, I heard a calm, clear voice come from my solar plexus that said “You are going.” Within 36 hours, I had been able to reschedule all my clients, pack, and get on a plane to cross the Pacific to Seoul, South Korea.
The week I spent in Seoul was one of the biggest growth experiences of my life. My husband worked from 8 am to midnight every day, which left me alone most of my time there. We had breakfast together every morning, and I spent the day visiting the sites I had found in the tour book the night before. I travelled by subway everywhere, in a land I didn’t know, alone, in a place that didn’t even use the same characters of the alphabet. I visited amazing palaces, sacred sites, and did learn to communicate well enough to earn me smiles wherever I went.
Before that time, I had never travelled alone. I was afraid of flying and fearful of the subway. By the end of that trip, I felt like I had overcome a million fears. I returned a completely different person.
That trip began a year of amazing travel – a year that forever changed my view of myself and the world. I visited Buddhist Temples in South Korea; Stonehenge and Glastonbury in England; Newgrange in Ireland; Energy Votexes in Sedona, Arizona; and Christian, Muslim and Jewish sites in Jerusalem, Israel.
I used to sit and listen to teachers and lecturers talk about the wonderful experiences they had and how much they had learned, and I wished that I would have the chance to do similar things. In the year 2012, I did. How did this happen? The universe offered me an opportunity, and I SHOWED UP.
Conscious Co-Creation Step 3: Action
You’ve gotten clear on what you want to create (Conscious Co-Creation Step 1: CLARITY), you’ve communicated it to the universe (Conscious Co-Creation Step 2: COMMUNICATION). Now it’s time to take action to help your Co-Creations come to life!
It’s not enough to tell the universe what you want and sit back and wait, you have to take responsible action to help move towards the achievement of your desires. This also includes taking a look at ways in which you may be blocking the achievement of your goals and noticing the opportunities that are presenting themselves to you that will help bring you closer to your goal.
For example, if you are looking for a new job, you need to prepare your resume and apply for available positions. If you are looking in a new field, action steps might include networking with others in your desired field, researching the type of work, or maybe even taking a volunteer position to gain the necessary skills to get hired in your new career path.
If you want to create healthier relationships, it may be helpful to reflect on past relationships and ways that you can better have your needs met. What have you done in the past that contributed to the unhealthy situations? What steps can you take today to ensure that you enter only into healthful relationships?
Take a moment to contemplate at least 3 action steps, however big or small, that you can make in the next weeks to help move yourself forward toward the fulfillment of your desired creation.
What opportunities have presented themselves in the last few weeks as you have begun the process of Co-Creation? How can you act on these opportunities to bring yourself closer to your goal?
I encourage you to use this three-part process in all areas of your life: CLARITY – COMMUNICATION – ACTION. If you would like to share your success stories, please drop us a line via our contact form. Happy Creating!