A startling revelation came to me one morning in 2012 as I was blow-drying my hair and obsessing over how to fix the latest drama I was in with an old friend. I had been in turmoil for days trying to figure out how to resolve this rift between us. We had recently reconnected after a few years apart and I felt once again thrown into the same old story that we had played over and over during our previous friendship.
As my mind spun in an unending string of mental chatter, I prayed for a way out of the stress and mental anguish that was tied to our relationship. Then, as if out of nowhere, a flash of clarity broke through the fog:
“Do I even want to be friends with this person anymore?”
I was shocked. I had never asked myself that before. I had never allowed myself the luxury of considering my needs and desires. The world seemed as though it paused, as if on an in-breath, awaiting my answer.
“Huh.” Pause. “NO.”
I was finally able to acknowledge that this relationship was draining, toxic, and didn’t offer me anything of value anymore. I felt obligated to our relationship and I was staying in the relationship because I felt guilty about wanting something different for myself. The solution became clear. It was time to walk away.
For months I had been unable to sleep, suffered anxiety attacks, stomach aches, heartburn, and lost my voice completely for almost 10 days. My belief that I had to love and be nice to everyone, that my job had to look a certain way, and that I had to be a certain way was costing me my health and happiness.
As I continued to hold the hair dryer in my hand, I began to question other areas of my life that I was unhappy with – work, relationships, family situations, and so on. I found more feelings of obligation and layers fear and guilt that were holding me hostage in unhealthy situations.
I knew in that moment that the problem wasn’t my life, the problem was me. I had finally found a way out, something that I could change.
Freedom in Authenticity
With these new insights, I sought out a coach who could help me navigate through the emotions and false beliefs that were holding me down. I learned to “get real” with my thoughts and feelings and realize where I was sabotaging my happiness and success for fear of rocking the boat.
I found layers of subconscious beliefs that had accumulated over decades of my life that were driving my responses to the people and situations around me. I saw that I had the power to change any situation by aligning myself with my values and standing up for my needs.
Over the next several months, I broke free from the self-imposed limitations that I had, removing myself from harmful relationships and situations and making adjustments to my business that allowed me to release areas that I didn’t enjoy and making room for more authenticity and passion.
My health, energy, and vitality began to improve (no more anxiety attacks!), my healthy relationships deepened and strengthened, and I began to attract new clients to my practice and found renewed passion and purpose for my work.
Since that time, I have helped dozens of clients break through their own limiting beliefs and fears, leading them to higher levels of conscious awareness, better health, more vibrant energy, and alignment with their life purpose.
My passion and purpose is to help women release the blocks, fears, and limiting beliefs that are preventing them from achieving their goals for freedom and success through the entrepreneurial path.
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